I’m old yet young.
I haven’t lived long enough to know it all, to know how to handle and deal with life’s trials and tribulations. I haven’t lived long enough to know which turns to take, which bushes to cut down in this journey we call life. It is all trial and error. I haven’t lived long enough to know what true love is when it hits me in the face. I haven’t lived long enough to know when the right time to hold someone who’s lost a loved one is. I haven’t lived long enough to know from face value whether or not a person is my true friend. I haven’t lived long enough to celebrate each time I hear some news about the stock markets.
I haven’t lived long enough to tell you if he loves you or not. I haven’t lived long enough to tell you if he will forever be yours or not because at the end people change and their characters are never fully revealed.
I would still rather read a book and smell the pages as opposed to using a kindle.LOL.
I have lived long enough to know that I am not perfect, in fact I am far from it.
I have lived long enough to know that when I go through a hard time I keep to myself looking to those I love to comfort me without me having to cry before they hug me. I have lived long enough to know how I am capable of achieving beyond my wildest imaginations.
I have lived long enough to know that I love fiercely which is why I tread carefully.
I have lived long enough to know that I am loyal and when I care about something or someone, I would go to the ends of the world, friends, family and lovers alike. I have lived long enough to know to cherish every passing moment and to live not exist. I have lived long enough to doubt what I hear unless I am shown, yes, actions speak louder than words.
I have lived long enough to know that not everything that glitters is gold. I have lived long enough to know that people bullshit half their lives and talk hot air.
It takes a life time to know just one person, so therefore in reality it is impossible to say you know them, in a perfect world, it will only take ten minutes to figure out what type of person your partner is.
Everybody is weak to the impression and fairytale vision of what love is supposed to be. The reality of love is more jaded, it’s like a puzzle that you must put together with a total stranger- somebody you have no clue of their character, what you know and see is either the truth or an act they have put together for you to see.
While putting this puzzle together, there will be moment’s pure bliss when all the pieces are falling into place perfectly without a lot of work. Then there will be moments of frustration and feelings of despair as other pieces don’t fall into their perfect place or the place where you both wanted them to fit or a place where you have secretly hoped they would go. And it is at this point where you have to take some punches, deal with the minor disappointment and work together on figuring out where the pieces must go.
It is at this exact point where by people will give up and walk away because it looks and feels difficult or the other partner is not worth it. Yes I said it…we only walk away from situations and people who aren’t worth the fuss. Why would you stay and go through hell and high water when you can just move on to a less complicated greener looking patch of grass?
Don’t get me wrong, there are those couples (who have been together for years and years) who agree to part ways because they put their puzzle together a long time ago, they were in the rain and storms together and some pieces of the puzzles fell off and they have tried the best they can to put it back together again but it’s just not coming together anymore.
I’m talking about new love, those first few weeks and months when the newness is still strong and the excitement still gives you butterflies and birds chirp in the night time. When every love song you hear reminds you of your boo and Houdini has been resurreacted.LOL. When you smile just by the thought and mere mentioning of your partner, you glow, you just light up. When everything they do is just right.
This is all when all the pieces of the puzzle are falling perfectly into place.
How can you tell the difference between the truth, lust and infatuation?
It’s simple. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.
Do not let something you don’t like or do not plan to like for a long time to go on for longer than you can handle. When you have no plans to ride it out, don’t get on.
If you are looking for more than just a fling don’t be afraid to put it out there and wear your heart on your sleeves.
Nothing is sweeter when you meet someone who wants to love you and loving them back gives you calm in your life, when loving each other is the most important thing between the two of you. There is an unspoken bond and feeling of respect.
You will both need to be patient and in my life I have learnt that somebody who doesn’t truly love you finds it hard to wait for you or rather to be patient with you.
There is no set rule or guide book in love and life. We live to learn. We just make the mistake to carry our past relationships into our current or future relationships forgetting that in a new relationship all you bring to the table is yourself and your character.
What has taken place in the past is for you to learn and become a better person, not to dig a hole for yourself and your new partner. Whatever comes your way, work at it together- I know it’s easier said than done but when the line of communication is open, use it. Something’s may seem embarrassing to say or mention but trust that you will be understood. If you both are open from day 1, and everything is put on the table, you are giving your partner the comfort that they are dealing with a mature individual who is willing to do the work for the relationship to blossom.
When you reassure your partner of your presence in his/her life and actually show that you want to stay; you will be creating a long lasting channel of closeness.
Don’t be afraid of each other, Talk, talk, talk….communicate. Remember that if you don’t talk there is no way you will know each other or know what is happening in your partner’s life. If you can’t call your partner, text your partner or make time to just sit and talk with all your clothes on, somebody will fill those shoes.
Oh and chatting on BBM/Whatsapp/ twitter/ facebook doesn’t count.
We all crave for the picture perfect love where no storms and gales come to disturb the spring but the reality of life is not as we dream or wish it to be. Seasons change and people grow; the earlier you learn this the better you will be at handling change in your life. Because to be a better lover or person, there will be some changes you have to go through. You can’t possibly remain the same all your life. There are lovers who will force you to grow emotionally or mentally and you have to be prepared to embrace, accept and forgive. Treat every experience as a lesson and preparation for your future love.
when you can respect a man simply because he is a man, without him having to buy you gold or flowers, you are on the right track.
Inspired by YOU,
DiamondDiva
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