Dating has been a game that people partake in to yield certain results. People date for many various reasons. Others date because they are passing time, others because they are afraid of being alone, others because they are hoping to meet someone who will be close to what they want, others date to get laid.
Whatever you reasons for dating are; it is important to know and keep in mind your goal for the whole exercise because wandering around aimlessly in the dating game will drain you out. It takes a lot of energy and time to be somebody’s else’s half. And you don’t want to be worn out before you meet your one. Also, don’t mistake dating for sex. Dating and sleeping with are separate terms.
The “ancient” institution of dating meant that we go on several dates, hardly ever kiss on those dates, and might hold hands, plenty of conversation, eye contact. This meant by the time you have been on numerous dates, you would be ready to know whether or not you would be connecting physically with that said individual. A physical connection was one of those things that were on both y’all minds but it wasn’t THEE priority. It was on the to-happen list. You both knew you wanted to get laid but you also knew it would happen so why rush. Emotions were given time to grow, dislikes to be found, flaws to be accepted. I know this sounds really old school and many have confused what men should be doing and said it’s just plain romantic. WRONG. What’s really romantic about something that is standard procedure? Ok…getting you flowers when you least expect them is romantic, but a man taking you on a date, calling you, texting you, talking to you because you are dating is NOT romantic. Its standard procedure divas don’t get it twisted.
The “modern-day” institution of dating has kind of kept the outline of the game but changed the principles. All in the name of “empowering female sexuality”. What in the world is that? Can somebody please shine a light on this pathetic excuse to get women to drop panties faster than dying flies?
Why do women have to sell themselves short to get a man? I, for one, certainly don’t think this is necessary simply because there are enough dicks to go around for everybody. *SMILE*
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not knocking women who go out there looking to get laid by the blue collar brother in his dark navy Armani suit standing at the bar drinking his beer and smelling great. I don’t blame them. There is a difference between the women who don’t care to lay down with a different man every other weekend, because that is simply all they want and we all have the choice and power to do whatever we want with our cookies, and the women who are actually looking for something more solid, more meaningful, more stable than just sexual intercourse (especially since we can never be too sure if the sex will be worth giving yourself away too easily anyway.LOL).
And knowing that you are ready for something more than a fun weekend out comes with maturity, let’s also keep in mind that as much as maturity is supposed to come with age, it doesn’t. Divas out there are grown and beautiful women but still want to chase the elusiveness of a thrill, forgetting that these young swaggalicious divas are taking over. The younger they get, the more exciting it is for some of these pimps out here. That’s the truth. Men have a fetish for pretty young things. And no amount of Botox or silicon can get your youth glow back.
He may not actually go out and do something with a young one, but trust me he’s looking a fantasizing.
Ok, let me back track, when you meet someone; in less than 10 minutes you already know whether or not you want to have a relationship with that person or just shag.
The whole date thing just becomes a formality in view that you both have to get a better glimpse of each other’s minds (because you checked each other out well when you met anyway).
Some people would rather skip the “getting to know you better” part, and we all have different reasons. This is like a taking a short cut and all I can say is if you take a short cut you will get cut short.
It’s as simple as that.
Think of it this way, here is this man you are totally enamored with and he could be getting laid another woman but he is choosing to wait a little while longer out of respect of your wishes. Isn’t that the fuzziest thing you will ever feel? Just by that alone, you have laid a solid foundation for respect in the relationship. There is nothing independent or strong spirited by sleeping with a man on the first night they meet him or within 3days.It is just plain old EASY and who wants easy? You would have given this man every reason not to respect you or your values. Oh yes, each time he dogs you out he will be thinking about how easy you were. Why then should he stick around or have an ounce of respect for you because you already gave him the prize quicker than a mouse will jump on cheese.
Let the character of man be more important than what he can bring to the table. It’s about the principality of the whole situation divas. Know your value and values.
Do not mistake “dating” for “sleeping with”. These are completely different.
Power to the girl who dated a few guys before she chose the one with whom she believed would be right for her to be in relationship with, regardless of the fact that it didn’t work out best in the end.
More power to the women who manage to sleep with all the guys who take them on dates, I just want to know if she even knows who she is at the end of it all. Or is she living in a fantasy world and sleeps better at night because she thinks she is sexually liberal? (See the fancy terms they have for abhorrent behaviors).
The truth is many men enjoy “the chase” and a man who is sincere about wanting you to be a part of life no matter the time span will wait. And just because he is waiting it doesn’t mean he doesn’t want it or he isn’t going to try and get it every opportunity that presents it.
I am in no way saying that women need to be ice-queens and be cold. Show the man that you have your eyes on that you are deadly interested in him but don’t give him a red light district show while you at it. Divas, y’all need to get creative with this stuff, it isn’t rocket science, flirt, be polite, be presentable, look good. Find out what this man is into. If it means you have to sit there and watch Aljazeera…let it be. As much as men are a visual creatures, they find an element of sexy in a woman who has the ability to use her head every once in a while.
You know why most fellas won’t tell the truth about all this? Because they are benefitting from this lie. And any benefit is better than nothing, it’s not on them.
DiamondDiva
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