A Good Partner

I have often wondered what the definition of a good woman or man is.

 In the context of a relationship, what is the definition of a good woman? Who determines if a man has a good woman? And what is the barometer used to measure a good man?

In most cases, we use our past relationships (bad or good) as a telescope of a good partner. As we grow older and go through experience we learn who we are in a relationship and what and how we like to be treated. Another factor is what we see out in the world.

I don’t know for men but for women sometimes our friends’ experiences and opinions always seem to shape what we end up looking for or settling for. And in that; we manage to turn what we need for ourselves to what we would like to have and that is approved by the general public.

There is no such thing as men are intimidated by women. Never.

Ladies stop all this junk about, “He cannot handle a woman like me because I earn more”.

 Don’t cushion your rejection. It’s simple. If a brother doesn’t like you or your cookie…he will be out! Just because most men punk out and come out with so many excuses it doesn’t mean they actually mean half of what they are saying.

There are many scenarios and reasons of a break up but intimidation is hardly one. And if it is; that man was just a punk to begin with and you never saw it either because the laying of the pipe was that good or you wanted to believe that you are so insanely happy, that Mr. It had finally arrived at last.

Oops, how wrong you were. And now that he decides to move on it’s because he’s probably intimidated by you? Now you want to call him names and have a gossip party about him? Really? Come on Diva; get back to planet earth please.

There is nothing more pathetic than a Diva who will not just accept that a punk has found a new cookie jar or that she was one of those Divas that treated a man like boy. If you treated him like a King and he still chose to walk out on you… that’s not your business to sit and evaluate why. Let a dog be a dog.

As women, we often make these men feel worthless simply because we stroke our own egos. Let a man be a man until he fails to be a man. Don’t fail him because he doesn’t “look’ the part.

What is the 1^st thing that crosses your mind when you come across someone you would like to date or be involved with? Do you let your alter-ego take over or you try to seem like it doesn’t bother you that they are not looking your way? Do you show what you are all about? Do you open flirt? Do you take the lead? Do you envision yourself naked and having the craziest bonk with them? Do you see yourself being the craziest sex they have ever had? Or you just want to get through those few moments?

When you first meet a person you walk away from them knowing whether or not you want them in your life. If that’s not the case, you give yourself a chance to sit and talk to them. By the end of that 1^st date you already know if you would like to have a casual fling, one-night stand or a relationship with them. This is why we give ourselves the time to get to know them. Otherwise you would not waste your time unless it’s all about fulfilling your sexual needs. And by getting to know someone it doesn’t give either party’s’ a ticket to have sex. A man or woman should be able to respect that you are in way ready to have a sexual encounter with them just after 3 hours or 3weeks.its common sense; unless of course this is what you both want and can live with it should one choose to walk away from the entire situation after the cookie deal has been sealed. It’s not playing hard to get. It’s just a principle.

So the next time someone lies to you and says they don’t know what they want from you even after you have been on countless dates and chill sessions…they are probably lying to you. That or they don’t want a relationship with you just yet or ever but they want to keep enjoying you *wink*.

And if you are enjoying the being enjoyed position then that’s all good. Just don’t you run talking foul about somebody once they are through with you. Just know there is nothing more irritating than a man/woman playing around and stringing another along just to keep their options open.

Divas; if you know you have no intention of being involved with somebody, except being tangled between sheets-make it obviously clear.

The common factor and problem with many Divas, shims, men and all is that we make the physical connection way too soon. We give ourselves away in the name of fun and flirting. We give the predator what he wants without having really done much for it. And when I say, “done much” I’m not talking about financial or material gain. I know some grown women who are still stuck in that phase or open legs equals open heart. I can tell you now…that’s the worst kind of mathematics one can ever do.

If a man wants to be a part-time lover….it's either you with it or not. And if you with it get with the program and understand exactly what it means. But I wouldn’t waste my time trying to keep a part- time lover happy as I would be as miserable as London weather if I chose to do that.

Most women are too busy trying to change who they are to fit the lifestyle of expectations of a man, not minding if they are low or are disrespectful to her.

Many women, for example, wouldn’t mind sharing a man with four other women as long as he keeps the Benjamin’s green and the Moet coming.

You have to have played the game well enough to know how you want to feel majority of the time when you are with your partner.

Know yourself well enough to walk away from the Brad Pitt of your dreams if need be.

Most men just want a woman who can be herself and the fools who are not bright enough to appreciate that; well let them roll on past, with their pockets fool of money.

DiamondDiva