Lie to Love

Hands up anyone who has ever told a lie?

Oh come on, raise your hand, nobody is watching besides God.

And I won’t be sugar coating it and giving lying degrees or level like little white lies, or big bad lie or failure- to-think-lie, a lie is a lie.

I often don’t care why people lie because their lies often have nothing to do with my life directly but their own psychological health. So when I find out a man has told a lie to me, naturally, I want to know why but after a few minutes I’m ready to move. I don’t understand what I would get in return if I was to hover over someone else not being honest with me, so I keep it honest with myself and keep it moving.

Sounds simple right?

Well I have also found out most things in life are easier said than done. Especially when it concerns somebody that you liked, loved or were frinemies with.  It is in all of us to want to play Sherlock Holmes as to why we were lied too, but sometimes there really isn’t anything to it, that person just lied to you because it was easier than telling you the truth which they thought was complicated at the time. And you can’t honestly say you have that much energy to waste to go digging where you shouldn’t be. I hope you are happy with the results should you find what you are looking for.

The fact that you did not tell the truth does not makes your degree of lying no bigger or lesser than the guy who lied about being single yet he was married, or the chick who told you that you were dating exclusively while she knew she had three or four other Johns on the side or the woman who said she had no kids while she had four, or the guy who told you he was banker while all he did was lay up in his mother’s house and plan bank robberies, or the guy who said he wouldn’t be hanging out Friday night but come Sunday and his picture is in the paper dancing up a storm in the club, or the woman that told you she was a senior manager at her job while she really just worked at the reception or the kid who said he hadn’t eaten the sugar while you could see traces of white sugar on his face.

Do y’all get the picture? A lie is a lie, what we call a small lie tends to grow into a big lie because you have to keep that story up.

Most importantly never ever lie to keep someone in your life, just don’t do it because they will be staying with what they know of you not you.

If a man can’t accept that you have a couple of kids waiting at home for you, then he needs to step and you need to move on! I absolutely do not understand the women who carry on in a relationship with a man who would run a mile if he knew they were mothers or divorced. If he can’t handle that you have been through a few things in your life that you have a history and past…I don’t see why you hanging around that kind of man. He needs to go find himself some school girl.

And the same goes for women, some Divas cannot accept that he has to pay child support to his kids and sometimes help out his baby mama, and you always running your mouth about the mother of his kids…girl, you need to quit with all of that or leave him. Because you are causing unnecessary drama.

If a woman can’t accept that a man makes below a certain amount of money a year, then she needs to get two jobs or leave him to try and find a baller, if that’s what she is about.

If a DIVA can’t accept that her man doesn’t drive a Benz or drive at all, she needs to move on to the next one before she starts lying to her friends trying to cover up why she’s with a man who walks or rides the bus.

If a man cannot be honest with you about what he does for a living, he doesn’t deserve to be in your life. He needs to trust that you are there for him until you prove him otherwise.

When a meet a person for the time, don’t lie but just tell them you cannot be laying your life out in the open with a stranger (that is what they are at this point). There are certain things you don’t need to hide like being married/involved, having kids, student/employed etc. those are things I think your love interest would like to get a heads up on so they know what they are getting into should they want to get into it. That’s why it’s important to date, and by dating I’m not talking physical connects, I mean going out on actual dates or talk often, because that is how you will get to know the next better before you make any decisions.

And don’t you just love to hear the reasons behind why people lied, I have heard it all.

It is extremely creative and near comical to hear the justifications people will use to try and make you think that it was ok for them to do what they did.

A man will justify cheating on his wife as, “she was there for me when no one else was”.

Women and men will justify lying about themselves as, “I was afraid you would not accept me or you would leave me”.

A man will justify not answering his phone as, “my battery was low and later died”.

A woman will justify her disappearance as, “we had a family emergency”.

A little boy will justify stealing the sugar as, “I knew you would say no if I asked”.

Are you laughing yet? Because I am.

Lying just gets in the way of you living your life care and stress free. It’s an easy habit to pick up and it stems from the person always wanting to be right, or seem like they know it all or just want to seem flawless which is impossible at human level.

See already for a person to always want to be right or seem perfect; that’s mental instability on its own right there. Always remember the loudest one in the room either has a lot to hide or they just enjoy talking hot air. Just as still waters run deep.

Don’t worry about others lying to you, worry about yourself being completely honest with them.

Tell the truth, let it rip and how they react is their problem and not yours. You would have done your noble part just by being honest. Telling the truth does seem hard, but it does set your mind free.

If they cannot accept you for whom you are, then you have no business trying to be around them….or in them. *wink*

DiamondDiva