What is the measure of a man?

What is the measure of a man?

Is it how much money he has in the bank? Is it the power and influence he possesses in society?

Is it how much money he can spend not only on himself but on his chosen bird of the season?

Is it the type of job he has? Is it his level of education rather than his level of intelligence?

Is it the way he rocks his swag or that big turbo engine he has parked in his garage? *wink*

What is the measure of a man?

Maybe it is his spiritual wealth and his rigorous healthy lifestyle determine his worth?

Is it the strength of his religious affiliation?

Could it be his ability to work through your mess while you continue to do him wrong?

Perhaps the measure of a man lies within his loins?

Who determines what and who is man enough? Is it the countless women who say all man are dogs?  Divas you better be careful because DOG spelt backwards is GOD.

Is it possible that men themselves, have imposed on society what they should be viewed as, could it be the over achievers who get enough air time to make sure that the underachievers can never have any piece of that pie.LOL. Have men woven themselves into the cloth they are wearing today, that you can no longer tell the difference between the cloth and the person wearing it.

They all come bearing gifts and promises in some shape or form, but let the truth be told that nothing in this world is free, everything will come with a small price to pay or sacrifices to be made. So you can either play it blind (I know a lot of Divas do) or play it smart.

Money has the power to blind a woman so badly she would marry the Grinch, and when I say Grinch, I’m just talking about the look of the Grinch, remember the Grinch was one mean cuss!

And men know this and use it to their advantage. You see ladies, men are smart yet stupid, but smart nevertheless. Most men have narrowed women to 4 types: iPhone, Blackberry, Nokia and Android.

IPhone- She is classy, expensive looking, she can be useful but better as an accessory for those nights out or office functions. Many men want a woman like this but they forget the configuration of an iPhone is tricky. This woman is smart, she stays ahead.

Blackberry-She presents herself in an affordable way but this girl will wipe your money out and yet you will still want her. She comes across as pretentious.

Nokia- She is simple, easy to maintain and to play around with. Side line chick- a nokia is always that spare phone somewhere in the back of your closet. You need one just in case of emergency.

Android- Treats you well if you know how to treat her well keep her shiny and hope to God she loves you for real. This woman is the all rounder most men don’t know how to handle.

I don’t blame men for turning us into phone technology because that just how we operate as women, hate it or love it. All we need now is a good service provider willing to sustain us and keep our battery power charged. I have a few suggestions for service providers you could try as a woman;

 Zain Telecommunication- He has strong bank account, has good track record of good customer service and its international so you are bound to get an international passport. But he is very possessive, LOL.

Wataniya Telecom- Looks and feels good. Talks more hot air than your cousins and always has some network interference going on.

SwaziMTN- which comes highly un-recommended by previous users, he is highly unreliable, lies through his teeth and is always taking money from you for transport to work.

AT&T- He has some money but you will never really know it because he does a good job at hiding it. He will treat you well if you become his pet. He will mess your life up should you grow some smarts and try to do you. He is a master of manipulation.

Sprint- Oh this guy is flashy, he is willing to buy your love…but keep in mind nothing is free.

T-Mobile – He is simple and down to earth, laid back and works hard most of the time. If you are looking for a functional relationship on a more realistic front.this is your man. Don’t count on going shopping though. LOL.

So we have technically all put ourselves in a box. What is real and what isn’t is entirely up to us to try and find.

Most women say they are looking for a real man. Yet they struggle with their definition of real. I think a real man is the type that will keep it real with himself before he dares to keep it real with you. A man who can be a true friend, a man who has your best interests at heart even if it means your best interests are either not with him or a distance from him, a man who looks out for his team no matter what- without looking for gain, a selfless type of man who is willing to give you his last and never go back and remind you of it. Where are the men who are not afraid for divas to earn more than him, a man who isn’t afraid to support a woman’s dreams because he doesn’t fear her success- he understands that when you shine, he shines. Ladies we need to understand that men are not intimidated by our success; it is how we act or handle our success that makes them seem intimidated, mostly.

A real man is comfortable to let you blossom and spread your wings because what God written nobody has the power to change. He is your financial, business and emotional advisor, he doesn’t impose his ideas and life on you because if it is written that will happen without any force, without notice your lives will become one, embedded in profound respect, love and a deep understanding of your lives as a unit and as individuals.

He doesn’t try to change who you are to suit the vision he has in his mind for you. This man admits to his faults, accepts his shortcomings, deals with his failures in a way that is so mature that his successes shadow the minor speed bumps he comes across. As a man, he will never lay his hands on you, for how can he destroy such a precious work of art that is you.

He is humble and God fearing.

Diva Motto #1: I’m a real woman who knows what she wants and I am at a point in my life whereby I am not afraid to state and go out and get what I want. I am content with all the disappoints I have encountered and I am comfortable to say that I can lay in bed at night by myself without the urgency or fictitious need to have a man lay up in me.