There is nothing more irritating or putting off than a man who has zero aspirations, is content with working the same job he has held for over 5 years with no promotion in sight. He’s not inspired to dibble and dabble in other things, a man who seems comfortable and is not looking for a change or new opportunities.
This man is not a hunter (yes because in the rules of nature men are the hunters). So when a man stops hunting for more meatier and fresh game and is content feasting on that same old skinny gazelle he caught 5 years ago it can only mean 2 things;
ü He has NOT sharpened or practiced his hunting skills
ü Because of number 1, going out in the world and hunting down your game when all the others around you are already feasting on buffalo is scary.
All this can breed bitterness in a man, making him incapable of making his woman happy or making his woman happy and everybody else miserable. There’s an aura of unhappiness about this type of dude it’s like he doesn’t see in color anymore, everything is in black and white. He has limited his mind to be open to possibilities simple because he is too lazy to create his own. This is the same guy who is quick to kill your dream and steal your idea at the same time. This man hates to see people “make it”. And it applies to us women too, we have women whore content sitting on their behinds and letting it roll in.
Nothing in this world comes rushing to you. You have to work for it.
Just like how a millionaire marries some blonde form farm-where you don’t even have a clue what that girl had to do to be noticed by a man who has many women running towards him.
And isn’t it strange how the uninspired lot always ends up with a diva who just loves the smell of money or high living? So this lazy man is actually forced (possibly for the first time in his life) to think of other ways to hunt.LOL.
Oh come on y’all, don’t act like you’ve never seen this in motion. Where a woman is placing an invisible mountain of pressure on her man to provide more. I like to look at it as not being pressure but a woman demanding that her man claim his place in the cycle of nature and hunt.
Do not get it twisted ladies and gents, let me take y’all to school for a little bit. There is a difference between a job, occupation and a career. And this next bit affects the professionals and not the BEE or new money kids on the block because that’s a different kind of science all together.
Often the terms job, occupation, and career are used interchangeably. In fact, they have very different meanings. A job is work for which you receive pay. Example: biologist at XYZ Biotical Company who earns $8000.00 a month.
An occupation is a wide category of jobs with similar characteristics. Example: physician, engineer, educator, or scientist.
A career is a lifetime journey of building and making good use of your skills, knowledge and experiences. It is the total of all events and relationships in our lives: family, friends, and education, work, and leisure activities.
And where you “work at” is somewhere you spend time until you figure out exactly what it is that you want to do with yourself.
It is safe to say that a majority of people never really think of this before they get into a relationship with somebody? Is it fair to say that the men and women who often are interested in this type of information are considered too serious to be dated, or too focused? There truth is it is no longer enough to just go about dating individuals who aren’t even sure of themselves, practically no defined direction or path. This separates the winners from the losers or those come in last. In some instances, it’s easier to say it doesn’t matter how fast or quick you get there but the reality of it is that as life progresses and we get older we lose the vicious tenacity we once had if we don’t have any personal achievements; we become content with that skinny gazelle when we too could have a buffalo. Do you follow?
The sooner you get into hunting, the better results you will yield as you learn.
There’s just no way a 42 year old man can compete for a job with a 25 year old man. Where has this older man been? Where are his peers in the same occupation?
This is why I tell my women and men friends to learn to demand more from the man/woman they are dating. You don’t have to be a millionaire in an X amount of time, but have a plan of progress, things may not always happening according to plan, but planning helps you to stay focused.
It’s not a crime to ask a guy what his five year plan is career-wise.
Explain to him that this 5 year plan, has nothing to do with you two getting married or having kids but you want to know where he sees himself in 5 years, he must be at least be able to visualize this. He may have a job but he must aspire to be more than just a sales clerk.
I know a man in my family who went from being sales assistant to managing director of an international brand company because he had a woman who demanded more from him educationally and skill-wise. He worked his sales job and went to school; there was constant change in his life with regards work. And as he nears retirement he can sit in his big spacious office, drive his upper-class vehicles, spend time with his beautiful wife and watch his children win just like he did.
Divas, shims, flamingos and it’s, I will tell you today that there is a huge difference between working a job, occupation and career. Here a few ways to get started:
Five Principles for Career Planning
Change is Constant
We change constantly and so does the world around us – including the working world. Because a single occupation will no longer take us from the beginning to the end of our working lives, adaptability is an important skill to carry into the future.
Learning is Ongoing
Graduating from high school or college doesn’t mean that your education is complete. Opportunities to learn are everywhere!
Learn to recognize them and make your learning a lifelong experience.
Focus on the Journey
Traveling through life is like traveling down a road: having a destination gives direction, but most of the time is spent moving along. Pay attention to the journey with all its pitfalls, sidetracks, opportunities, and highways to new destinations.
Follow Your Heart
Dreaming about your future can help you understand what you really want in life. Knowing what you want and keeping it in your mind can give you the motivation you need to deal with life’s challenges. Never be afraid to dream.
Access Your Allies
The journey of life is not taken alone. Friends, family, teachers, neighbors – any of them can be willing and helpful allies when it comes to judging what steps to take in life’s path.
DiamondDiva
Forget demanding more from the other, I say to her "we're in this together and we both support one another's dreams and aspiration." We can be poor but yet rich, we can be rich but yet poor. Our happiness should always be measured by a wide-array of things but is mostly derived from the Source of happiness. I agree that we should expect more of the other but more in the sense of maximizing our potential if that's one's destiny. But I'll tell a woman in a second "if you not happy then go make yourself happy"...LOL.. especially if I'm content... there is always going to be more out there but when is enough enough. Just because because the other says so? I say let your man be a man and say "baby, this is enough". Yes, one may agree and usually this is the independent woman who says "I want more and refuse to be content" due to her unhappiness. Remember, everyone is replacable with that sort of attitude. But then again, everyone has differing agendas when being in a relationship. What is your hidden agenda? Was we not happy when we first met or were you assuming that I wanted more since you wanted more (or you thought I would get more)? Have we ever wondered why the rich isn't content with being rich? The reason is that its always more riches...then you spend your whole life changing the more until you realize that half your life has passed away, your kids are all grown and lacks the support they needed growning up because you was too busy chasing the more. I call that being selfish and irresponsible. The point of the matter is "what are we trying to acheive together as one.".... What defines your happiness or better yet "what defines OUR happiness together"... I say stop pressuring the hunter if what the hunter bring home doesn't get cooked most of the time!!! And if what I kill and bring home doesn't fit what you want GO FIND ANOTHER HUNTER AND GET YOUR BUTT OUT MY HOUSE BECAUSE THERE ARE MANY MORE THAT WOULD LOVE TO PREPARE WHAT I BRING HOME!!!! So stop hunting the hunter all the time. How about you comfort the hunter with love and support since you don't know what the hunter goes through all the time in taking care of his family. We all have an important part to play in making this all work. If you keep pressing that hunter to hunt he may hunt down another to take your place. Why is that wrong? All he is doing is all he knows how to do and that's HUNT when what he has hunted has already been consumed. Therefore, it's in his nature to continue to hunt as long as that which is behind him is hunting after him the whole time.
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