What is it with us women? Why do we always assume that everyman that treats us with the slightest kindness is our Mr. do it right? I feel any smart man knows that benevolence will get him very far with any woman. The irritatingly clever ones know that compliments and ego boosters will work in their favour in the long run. The thing I fail to comprehend is why then we think that the minute Mr. Man makes his intentions clear we feel like he is it, the don one? Isn't it just how he is supposed to behave, be nice and courteous towards you anyway? Like I always say, cookie missions are always there and alive whether at the back of his mind or elsewhere. The idea is to try and not fall too quick for a sucker who just wants to do that, suck you. Just as we should be able to tell the difference between the ones who are solely after the cookie and the ones who would like to explore a relationship with you. The man who just wants to have a taste of your cookie will work just as the man who wants to explore life with you as his partner. You will be lucky if he comes out straight and tells you he just wants to have a sexual relationship with you only. I personally prefer the one who comes out and tells me just what it is that he is hoping to get from me, atleast the brother gives you a heads up before the panty drops and you can decide if you want to be that sort of thing with him. Also like the one who would like for you to be his woman, he lets you know from the word go what he expects from this budding friendship and what he would like. You are also given the chance to choose if this is what you want.
We must quit thinking that if you give him the cookie he will stop wanting just a sexual relation and maybe, just maybe he will end up on your arm, exclusively. If that is not his intention, nothing you can do will change this man. You are not his mother.Ok perhaps you know a few ladies who have managed to turn a man around but truthfully speaking, that is a 50-50 situation it can go either way. He must want to change himself, he must initiate the change. All you can do is be supportive. I have learnt that a man who does not know what he wants is not worth my time. Yeah it's hard to let go of a man you so want to keep in your life but if he just wants to "kick it", he can get a soccer ball and go and kick it with his boys (that's what they are there for).Yet we must also keep it real as Divas, there are some of us who will go into something just for the sake of kicking it and passing time with the hope of great sex as well.yeah, been there myself a few times. It's emotionally wrecking yet we do it and let it be done to us too, we are just as equally accountable for the things that men do to us. We lead them on with the promise of something better yet we know very well we just want to tap that and be gone, we want that chance to scream out in pleasure and that's that. He can be dead for all you care. Oh don't deny it!! It feels good too.
We should also not forget that it takes a lifetime to really know somebody well, everyday you will learn new things about this beau, some good and others downright wrong but I guess we choose to put up with a lot of things out of the belief that we shall get past the negative. Or is it because you firmly believe in accepting flaws and all??don't get me twisted divas, accepting flaws and all is good and well so long as you do not compromise too much of your values and standards(all females should have these). So the next time this man steps to you, talking about how he knows you want to be happy and deserve the world and more, tell him what he already knows. That you know all that, he doesn't need to remind you. He must come at you with something new. Show him some brain matter PLEASE! Just don't wave a finger at his face while saying this. You can put on your best smile and smile with your eyes too (yes they smile) and be polite about it. Nothing sexier than a woman who turns a man down with style. If he is for real, you will know from his reaction to things like that. Most importantly, be yourself and protect the cookie. Do not be what society terms as easy.
Until next week, take care of you.
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