MARRIED PARTNER-PUBLISHED

By a show of hands how many of you have had a married partner, lover, time keeper, minister of finance or transportation?? C’mon don’t be shy, let the truth be told. LOL.

I have had so many friends ruin countless marriages, ashamed to say I have been part of that tirade. Now I’m sitting here thinking,” what on god’s green earth was that about?”  I can’t, for the life of me figure out exactly why I took part in such a dull and hurtful sport. Was it because of love or lust? Was it because I was naïve or plain stupid or living in a fantasy or was it because I like the non-pressure part of the relationship. Am I so bad that I needed to do my two stepping on a guy who was already two stepping his better half?*thinking*. Maybe it was the excitement that came with it…you know the sneaking around, fancy hotels, back of his car type thing and oh the drama that came with it-hey don’t judge me I’m just telling the truth. I still can’t figure it out. Was it because he was the hottest ticket in town at the time and so was I, that it was inevitable-we were bound to bump heads? DUH!!!With a country as big as ours, it was just a matter of time indeed. Or was it because he was afraid to reach into his pocket and spend on before he even knew I would accept his advances? Yep…it might have been his pocket that sealed the deal, lol.  It is sad because he did the chasing so technically you can’t blame me, I just received a gift looking past the fact that it was already owned by another after all we live to share, right?  WRONG.

I should have known better than to get involved with a man I knew was married but I consoled myself with the fact that his marriage was already in shambles. I ignored the fact that his marriage was in trouble because of his wandering ways. It was a onetime encounter that lasted longer than it really should have but like all things spawned out of sin, it withered away as seasons changed.

I also did not fill my head with tales of him leaving his family, I was there to simply be a friend and enjoy the benefits. It was a perfect arrangement which worked out well for all parties involved. What I did not bargain for was loving someone who had no intentions of changing his ways or behavior. He often told me that what we did was our little secret; little did I know he was bragging to his friends-not that I minded. I bet he never anticipated that the friends he bragged to would be the very ones who would try to polish my wimp! Bottom-line is his marriage ended long after we were, and we both became a distant memory in each other’s lives.  A lot of men and women have found themselves in similar situations and will continue to do so, so what I am saying to you is not new, the difference is I’m saying yes I did it.

We live in a society that says this is morally wrong, if the man keeps you as a mistress but it is right if he makes you a 2^nd or 3^rd wife. Where is the logic? Isn’t it still the same, you remain the other woman regardless. The only thing that changes is that he can continue to pursue other beauties- because we gotta love the fact that Swazis are beautiful people-while you sit at home twiddling your thumbs? So what exactly are we to do? Be a mistress in hope that you became a missus? Is that still wrong? I mean who wakes up a missus to a certain taken mister overnight? And we women want to walk around pretending that we can beat up all these little spring chickens that our husbands date, who really is in the wrong? Even worse, these young ones have started fighting over married men! LMAO. We have a lot of young divas settling to go in to polygamous relationships with men old enough to father them. And hey, I’ve been there and got the t-shirt-wore it proudly. This also applies to women; we have loads of young men settling for married older women. With that said, I’m all for love because you can’t choose where cupid will shoot his arrow, it’s one of those things we have to learn to live with.

#YouLiveAndLearn

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